They Call Me Dr. Phil...

Last night I got a message from a dude in Indonesia asking me for relationship advice. That was a first for me.

Here is his message, exactly how it was written, with his name removed:

"consider you are in relation with Alexis, that I think a smart woman. so I need your suggestion, how you maintain your relation with the woman you love and she is smart and also bussy ?
I confuse how to make still romantice, because the woman I knew she was work at free port mcmoran an american company operated in Indonesia, become very bussy and she don't have a time to meet even for a short date.

should I cheat on her, because you knew man basically need?thanks for your answer Mr. Dee."

Well, I am far from a relationship expert but I will say I am one helluva boyfriend! :)

My first piece of advice is for this guy to find out even if he is in a relationship with the woman he is talking about. It sounds like their might not be a relationship at all.

If that is the case, going out with another woman is not cheating.

If he is in a relationship with this woman, he needs to determine if it's an exclusive relationship. Have both of them agreed to only date each other? (It doesn't sound it but he should find out.)

If he is in a monogamous relationship then my strongest advice is do not cheat. If he dissatisfied with his relationship he needs have a serious discussion about it with his partner. Cheating, in any form, is destructive and not recommend under any circumstances.

Yes, Alexis is smart and very busy. I am too. To complicate matters, we live on opposite sides of the country. It is working for us but that is not to suggest there aren't bumps in the road. There are.

The worst thing you can do is to try to stifle your partner's growth or hold them back from achieving their dreams. This will only cause resentment.

One of the greatest ways to show your partner that you love them, is through the support and encouragement of their dreams.

However, if the relationship is to last, both people MUST make time to be with each other outside of work. Time alone to have fun, reconnect, make love and laugh - is essential to maintaining a loving relationship.

Now, let me say something controversial:

Most of the time, it's the man's job to make this time alone happen.

Guys, women LOVE it when you plan the entire date - LOVE it. Trust me on this one. Plan a night out with your woman without her having to do a thing except come along for the ride. She will be thrilled.

(Ladies: Occasionally do the same thing for your man. You will make him feel very special.)
Whenever, I'm in California, Alexis and I do at least one, non work related things by ourselves.
Two weeks ago, we went to see The Proclaimers (a band from Scotland.) This trip, we went to a Good Friday prayer service, followed by a beautiful dinner. Of course, then there was my mind blowing birthday. This Wednesday, we are going to see Bruce Springsteen.

Alexis is less than thrilled with this. She is not a fan and this will be her third Springsteen show in two years. But she knows it is important to me and, because of that, sh is going with me.

I do things with her I'm less than thrilled with because they are important to her.

Huge lesson here that applies to your romantic relationship as well as to your interactions with your children:

You do things with the people you love, not necessary because you love what you're doing but rather because you love the person you're doing it with and know it's important to them.

I come from a VERY traditional family and I'm living a very untraditional life with a very busy, very smart, very beautiful, very untraditional girlfriend.

But as with anything else, the fundamentals of having a successful relationship, don't change.

Live a life of passion, purpose and prosperity!
~Dave Dee

Back to the future

Today, I am writing a detailed report about trends in the marketplace and how your marketing MUST change if you are going to not only survive, but thrive in this changing economy.

The report is not for sale and I will not be releasing it to the general public. I am writing it to only be distributed to my private clients and coaching club members.

But I wanted to give you an overview of what I'm going to be writing about in detail. It is VERY important to your survival as an entrepreneur and business owner.

The main theme of this report is that you MUST go back to the "old school" way of things while incorporating and embracing new marketing methods.

The integration of old school and new school marketing is mission critical. Those not doing this will fail. Period.

For years, I have been preaching that direct mail is king and that still is 100% true. If you are not incorporating direct mail into your marketing system, you are setting yourself up for disaster.

If your business is built around email, I can tell you that the ice underneath your feet is beginning to crack and you are about to plunge into the icy cold waters below. Email deliverability is getting worse by the day and is not going to get better.

If you are focusing exclusively on social media and other Internet marketing vehicles and not doing print advertising, you are making a huge mistake that could be fatal.

I am NOT suggesting that you do not use all the cool and exciting online Internet marketing methods. You should and I am. Hell, I am even on Twitter. You can and should follow me at www.twitter.com/davedee

What I'm suggesting is that you do EVERYTHING you can to bring in business. Now is NOT the time to cut back on your marketing. Now is the time to DOUBLE your efforts.

And the best, most surefire and profitable way to do this is with careful integration of online and offline marketing.

Take what I just wrote to heart. It could save your business.

Kick butt, make mucho dee-nero!

~Dave Dee

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Lessons from the ice...revealed

Yesterday, I posted an account of hockey game I went to, that I said you could glean many business success lessons from. (If you missed that post, you can read it by going to http://www.davedee.com/blog)

A number of folks wrote in with lessons they got from my story and these included:

1. No matter how bleak it seems, never give up.

2. Don't become complacent when things are going well because circumstances can change quickly.

Those are both true but there was a hidden, deeper lesson in the story and here 'tis:

Remember, in the game the Thrashers were up by three goals twice, including in the third period. When the Kings scored the tying goal with five seconds left in the game, you could see how deflated the Thrashers players became. (What you didn't know was that the boys from Atlanta had played the night before and were dead tired.)

Their coach, smartly called a timeout minutes into overtime. I don't know what he said to the team but whatever it was, it energized them and helped them reach down deep inside to give more, even though they didn't think they had anything left to give.

What all my subscribers missed, was that the Thrashers ended up WINNING the game. They could have easily given up after the Kings tied it. They could have believed that they couldn't give anymore or play any harder but they didn't...they pushed themselves, despite setbacks and disappointments and in the end, were successful.

And that is how it is in life and business. There are going to the highest of the highs and the lowest of the lows. . There are times when things are going to be going well and then, all of a sudden, you'll be struggling and things are not going to go well.

They key is to never give up. To keep on keeping on. Give a little bit more and then give some more. If you do that, in the end, you will succeed.

Kick butt, make mucho dee-nero!

Dave Dee

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What a game....What a lesson...

Last night I went to see my beloved Atlanta Thrashers play the Los Angeles Kings here in LA.

Me and this one other kid were the only Thrashers fan in the entire place! It was weird being the only person in the place cheering when the Thrashers scored...which was a lot.

The game was intense and a number of important business success strategies could be gleaned from it.

The Thrashers started with three quick goals and, my friend who I was with at his first hockey game, said "Man, this game is over."

I told him it really wasn't...and boy was I right.

The Kings came within a goal of tying the game in the second period.

In the third period, the Thrashers scored twice quickly to go up by three goals again. And again, my friend said, "This game is over."

Again, I told him it really wasn't.

The Kings scored and then scored again.

They are down by one goal with 10 seconds left on the clock. 9-8-7-6-5....SCORE! Yep, with five ticks left on the clock, they ties the game.

I am bummin' and my friend can't believe it.

Now, I start telling my friend that the Kings are going to win in overtime, that they have all the momentum and that the Thrashers are spent.

Well, I was WRONG. The Thrashers ended up winning the game.

Can you discern all of the life and business success lessons from this game? Post what you think they are on my blog at www.davedee.com/blog

Tomorrow, I'll tell ya the lessons I learned.

Kick butt, make mucho dee-nero!

~Dave Dee

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Man sets self on fire

Most business owners are timid, weak and wimpy.

They dream small, uninspiring dreams. They move forward with caution and trepidation. They lack the "I'm going to kick ass," fire in the belly mentality needed for massive success.

They don't believe that they are the best at what they do and that any prospect who hires someone else is a fool. (How'bout you, do you believe that or do you believe your competitors do just a good of a job as you?)

When I decided to become a full time professional magician,I started out by primarily focusing on do kid's birthday parties.

First, I studied my butt off and developed a really great show. I wanted to make sure my product was excellent.

Then, I did some massive marketing. My marketing was better than any of my competitors by a long shot. Because of this,I started booking a lot of shows. Of course, the more shows I did, the better I got and my confidence grew.

I then realized that I was the BEST at what I did. I truly believed that. When someone would call about my services they knew they were talking to someone who believed in the product he was selling.

I NEVER had to put a competitor down and never did. I KNEW that everyone else was not at my level and that if someone wanted to hire the BEST, I was their only choice. This feeling came through without me actually ever having to saying it. It was simply felt and understood by my prospects.

You might think that this was being cocky and arrogant...and you'd be right...but I also firmly believed that it was the TRUTH.

How do you feel about yourself and what you're offering? Do you feel as strongly as I did. If not, it's holding you back.

Kick butt, make mucho dee-nero!

~Dave Dee

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It's not the marketing, dummy

Didja watch the Super Bowl? Pretty darn good. Next year will be even better when the Miami Dolphins are in it. :)

Today, I'm going to tell you a true story that happened to a friend of mine. This story illustrates a vitally important mistake that almost all business owners make, that is costing them money and that is probably costing YOU money.

My friend received a beautiful direct mail piece that was selling a particular type of cosmetic medical procedure. The brochure was first class and certainly cost a pretty penny. The procedure was something that my friend had been wanting to do as well.

Everything was perfect: The message was delivered to the right prospect at the right time.
My friend called the number to get more information and got an answering machine. This, in and of itself was not too bad although having someone answer the phone live would have been a good idea...especially at the price point of this service. My friend leaves a message and hangs up.

No one returns the call that day. Day two rolls around and still no call. Surely, on day three someone will return the call from a hot, qualified prospect, right? Wrong. In fact,
no one EVER returned the call!

Let me tell you what the idiot business owner is going to say when he looks at his numbers: "Ah, I knew it. This direct mail marketing stuff is a big waste of money. It doesn't work."

A big problem facing most business owners is not that their marketing doesn't work. It's that their follow-up system doesn't work. If Susie who answers your phone is a moron, it doesn't matter how good your marketing is.

Of course, every business owner thinks, "That's not the case in my business. My business is different." To the person that thinks that, all I can say is "Good luck."

Kick butt, make mucho dee-nero!

~Dave Dee

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Twas the day before Christmas and Dave is...

Twas the day before Christmas and I am stuck in an airport in Minneapolis not because of the weather but because of a bonehead move I made.

Let me 'splain...

I told you yesterday, I was taking the 12:20 AM red eye to MA. My ticket clearly said 12:20 AM, December 23rd.Yesterday was the 23rd but when the clock struck midnight on Monday, the 22nd, it turns into Tuesday the 23rd. Get it?

I missed my damn flight by a day.

Fortunately, there was a seat left and I got on the 12:20 AM flight. Unfortunately, there was no room on the flight from MN to MA unless I wanted to wait until 7:30 PM. This wouldn't have gotten me into MA until 10:30 PM and I would have missed my family's annual Christmas party.

So, I got on my trusty computer and went to http://www.sidestep.com/to see if I could get a same day flight on another airline.

Woo hoo! I could get an 11:15 flight on United, with a layover in Chicago, getting me to MA at 4:45 - in plenty of time for the party. As you can imagine, it cost me a pretty penny but it'll be worth it.

I've had one hour of sleep since yesterday but I don't need no stinkin' sleep! But I can tell ya, I'm in no mood to write a profound business building email.

So, instead, I want to answer some comments I received from yesterday's email about one of the worst movies of all time"Twilight."

One guy told me I shouldn't watch vampire movies because they give me "strange" ideas. Dude, I am not the one getting strange ideas. Alexis is so obsessed with the books that she told me she wants to be a vampire! That's reason 107 she is a "freaky California chick."

A woman, broke the news to me that "vampires aren't real."Really? Well, that might be true but the ultra wimpy vampires in the movie "Twilight" who glitter in the sunlight seem more inclined to be part of a Liberace review (on MANY levels) than a movie about vampires.

A number of folks (all women) told me that the movie was good. One suggested that my girlfriend should go see female oriented movies with her girlfriends and that I should go see movies where people are being killed left and right,with the boys.

Just for the record, my girlfriend HATED the movie as much,if not more, than I did. My dislike of the film had nothing to do with it being a chick flick - it had everything to do with it being poorly acted, poorly edited and some of the worst make-up you have ever seen. The lead vampire looked like he was wearing red lipstick - because he was! (See the Liberace reference.

Alexis has a knack for picking out really bad movies. Heck,I actually went to see Sex In The City with her. (And, oh goodie, part two is in the works.)

I think she should go to see "Unborn" with me in January.That's a horror movie where I'm sure they'll be plenty of gore and killin'...and NO glittering vampires.

What do ya say guys? It's time she goes to see something I like, right? (Of course, she did go with me to see the new James Bond flick, but after dragging me to Twilight, Sex In The City, and other nightmarishly bad flicks, she's gotta lot of making up to do!)

Gotta run, my plane is boarding. Wonder if I'll get stuck in Chicago.

Merry Christmas!

~Dave Dee
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